Tuesday, February 14, 2006

How to Name It

LOVE

The basic question that has baffled everyone is that why should one fall in love in first place. Everyone knows that love causes anxiety, depression, joy, sorrow, excitement and any feeling related to that fist-sized thing on the left part of the body. Man may have made rockets to reach mars, he may have created wires about 9 times thinner than a hair’s breadth and yet he still finds it hard to know what excites a woman :-).


Bright Side
Although I am unfamiliar to the brighter side in my own personal experiences, I have seen some one them go places from close quarters (of course to my friends). The symptoms as far as I have seen are as such
• Excitement about anything from her side. It could be as much trivial as a 1 rupee note with her name on it to something as much important as her photograph with our guy smiling sheepishly along her side
• Waiting for her phone calls at unearthly hours
• Any product or shop with her name arouses interest in our guy (unless her name is Jayalalitha our boy is safe)
• Lack of sleep
• Bragging to his friends about her. (aval azhagu enna, gunam enna…enna enna enna)

In short she becomes the epi center of his small world. If the love is certainly not for time-pass and is seriously pursued to end in a blissful nuptial knot….I bet they are a LOVELY and LUCKY couple.

Other side
Men always fall in love easily. Very easily. I have seen many of my friends go through their so called LOVE and as a guy I have been through it myself. The trouble is (now what I am going to say is something guys won’t agree and women would accept instantly) that men are too naive to understand what love is.

Any girl that looks cute is a 25% target for love, and if she smiles at you the probability becomes 50%. If you happen to talk to her and she responds well in return it becomes 75% and if this continues for more than 2 days, it is 100% love. BOOM. Look.....how easy it is.


Why Love?
1. The economy needs to grow and for that people need to spend. Why the hell on earth would a boy buy some expensive bloody gift to a boy or taking him out to movie, restaurant, beach etc? Of course not. That’s y he ends up falling in love with a girl and burns his pocket for her sake.
2. Men love bragging and showing off. What better to show off then a hot chick and I bet that the most lovable thing they would brag about is how a girl talked to him, how he flattered her, how she responded to his signals (idenna transmitteraa??) and how she fell for him(although its always the other way round).
3. And yes…. the final one is the catch. It’s the thrill of being in love.

Why Not?
The greatest fear that every love story faces is...the fear of rejection. What if she says NO? Half of the love stories in the world are the ones which start in the eyes, travel in the heart but never make it to the lips. Just 3 little words...8 letters...but they weigh like several tonnes of weight hanging around the body, soul and mind and make any sane person go mad with rage.

Love has become a time pass for many and so it comes cheap in the market of hearts. People LOVE for few months..maybe days..go to Park, beach, cinema and few places..enjoy each others company and BOOM...its Bye Bye.

The logic that defies my understanding is that girls agree instantly to marry good guys once their parents find a match for them. But if the same guy were to propose to her and tell her that he wants to be with her for the rest of their life...they reject it flatly. Why the double standards for love and marriage?

But then for all the ordeals faced on earth, it is worth every dime…for the one enchanting smile of the girl you are in love with.

Oh..the joy of being in love :-)

26 comments:

nandoo said...

Nice post :D
If you ask me there is no question of why or why not
its simply love and love only and nothing else... nothing to investigate just to feel it as it comes

nandoo said...

seri naan unkittte oru matter kekanum.. seri thaniya ketukren ;)

Anonymous said...

Good write up.

Srini said...

Harish, Good Write up.

neighbour said...

Lot of difference b/n our thinking da..

FYI.. True love never cause depression in you..
Pen manadhu- adhu bermuda triangle..

Lovuna unaku time paasa -- mavana vandhaanu vaiyaen.. You can find one of the luckiest guy very near to you.

Men always fall in love easily
Its true, mostly men will fall in luv than gals because gals are matured than us and will think in all directions but we are not like that.. what do you say?..

any girl that looks cute is a 25% target for love, and if she smiles at you the probability becomes 50%. If you happen to talk to her and she responds well in return it becomes 75% and if this continues for more than 2 days, it is 100% love. BOOM. Look.....how easy it is.
appadiyaa.. indha maathiri azhagana cute, smiling at you and responds for you voice and continue pannra ponnu kandeepa kaadaliyaaganumu illai.. She may be you best of the better friends..
Hope you have many friends like that..

I feel something in you that is wrong and depressed..

Speak out.. you will be heard .. thats what my suggestion.

I thought of writing more.. But not here will talk to you soon when I am back.

neighbour said...

last sunday I saw hindi movie.. Rang De basanti that tooo in theatre... Nice one after a long time....

logic said...

Harish,
Ninga namma neighbour babu frienda..
hmm enna babu nanba unga friend concept ungaluku appadiya opposita iruku..
Love has millions of faces and u r cing one of it..
If u have time do droppin.

Harish said...

Nandoo
Ennada kaekanum? Kaettu tholai

Srini
Nandri Nanba :-)

Harish said...

Neighbour
Pen manadhu bermuda triangle..ha ha ha..nice comparison
Love is time pass for so many boss...just go outside and see for urself..neeyae paathiruppa naraiya case idu maadhiri

btw...u r rite..infact..i guess u got my point wrong..what i am sighting here is that men take such acts of friendship as love from women and end up spoiling the whole lot cute friendship..i learnt it from experience..this blog is an advice to those on the verge of making the same mistake..
And yes...i m not depressed..when i see people as you who are blissfully sincere in your love, it just increases my faith in true love and makes me believe that true love does exist..and just wait for it to happen all by itself..

read the last line again which sums up my feelings for love "Oh..the joy of being in love :-)"

Harish said...

Rang De Basanti rocked man..
I want to see it again man..


Logic
Welcome here :-)
yeah ..i visited ur blog..
thought it was another valentines day post...but found it interesting with something different on love..greaaaaaat

unknown said...

Harish,
nice post..
Is this ur own experience?

neighbour said...

hai your thoughts accepted..

I am interpreted worngly...

bindhu said...

any girl that looks cute is a 25% target for love..

Is this love or lust?

Most guys confuse between love and lust. Most of the time, they live in a land of utopia.. As you say, they just want it as a timepass to brag to their friends... Once it passes, they'll look for another model.(this applies to cell phones, bikes or any other gadget too).

But in arranged marriages.. both love and lust is absent initially and the man and the woman put in the effort to make a relationship and eventually fall in love.

But then, there are the purer kinds of love.. in which the guy really loves the girl for the way she is.. But those are rare!!! Thats why girls hesitate.

Ramesh said...

hmm. good post. . interesting to read..
you have told it is "Just 8 words".. but many guys feel "Ahhh.. 8 wordsss ".. to different perspectives...

Latha said...

Harish,
That was a nice blog.I think this one is some what similar to the one u wrote already.I don't remember that blog name.Now a days love has become a marketing kind of thing.People are not talking about the original affection and love.I just want to tell abt 1 thing:


The logic that defies my understanding is that girls agree instantly to marry good guys once their parents find a match for them. But if the same guy were to propose to her and tell her that he wants to be with her for the rest of their life...they reject it flatly. Why the double standards for love and marriage?

I won't accept this fact,that girls just accept what ever the parents say and disappoint a guy who loves her.Every girl will be having her own dream about her better half.She might not have thought about that guy who proposed her has life partner.She might have taken him as a good friend.It's all one's own perception.Everybody will love other's behaviour,the way they speak and work..etc. That is different from love.

Harish said...

Ammu
Partly yes..

Bindhu
Partly agreed..In Arranged marraiges there is always an oppurtunity to convert them into a LOVING marraige

Harish said...

Ramesh
True Ramesh...those 8 words uttered and the wait for the reaction is something that everyone must go through :-)

Latha
True..most guys just tend to think things from their perspective and lose to see the other side :-(

Hiren said...

You said it in the last line. It could be a smile or the most unique thing that you like about love. Besides if there were no love, where would all us poets go?

chaitanya said...

you did good research man :)

double standards for love and marriage.... hmm... not fair to blame girls alone...

why and why not... can't be decided dude... it just happens... and one needs to feel it to know it...

i wish only true love exists on this earth but nothing else that pretends as...

Sugee said...

Good analysis. But I dont agree with the last part. There are no double standards, its what the society has made us into. If at all a guy tells his parents that he has a got a gal and wants to marry her, the parents wudnt refuse, whereas if it is the gals side they face humiliation in society. The girls since dont want to make it any difficult for their parents out of love /fear/respect dont accept even if they love the guy who has proposed to them. Good one..

Harish said...

Welcome Hiren
Yeah..where would the poets go..agreed

Chaitu
I pray the same.
May true love triumph forever

Harish said...

Sugee
Its fairly an issue of ego on part of most of the parents in our country. They want their wards to marry as per their wish. When they tend to find someone outside, it becomes an ego fight.
In a way your point applies to both men and women.

Sugee said...

But at the end men win over their parents but women suffer...(I know too many friends who are suffering)

Vani Viswanathan said...

byangra feel panni ezhudirkeenga! :) Nice one!

Harish said...

Sugee
Its 50-50...i have known men suffer from the same

Vani
thanks a ton :-)

Dimplicious said...

HE HE NICE ONE ACTUALLY...PERSONAL EXPERIENCE ROMBA OVER A THAAKIRUCHO??